The One Word I Try Not To Say To My Kids
Let me start this post by saying that I am FAR from a judgmental Mom and would never ever want that done to me, so take what I'm going to say with a grain of salt! There is no right or wrong way to be a parent 100% of the time. Heck, most of the time I'm just winging it myself and I love sharing my experiences with you all.
Throughout the time I've been a Mama, four years and counting, I've said one certain word way too many times. That word is "NO". There are so many times I want to scream and shout it and to be honest, sometimes I step outside my front door and do just that! ... You're welcome, neighbors! Once I left the daycare I worked at for a month )long story there), I started to try a different approach with my own kiddos since I was at home all day with them.
When kids hear the word "no" over and over and over, it just doesn't do anything. It loses it's luster and meaning. "Oh, there's Mom telling me "no" again..." Not that my kiddos, four and two years old, have ever said that phrase, haha...but I'm sure they've thought it in their own toddler words!
Instead of saying "no", I started telling them what I wanted them to do without even telling them. Emily would be chasing Brody around the house, getting super close to our hearth which, of course, could really hurt someone if they fell into it! I'd catch myself starting to yell out "NO!" but would stop and physically go over to them, interrupt the running and say, "We walk in the house around the fireplace." I'm telling them to stop running and to only walk when they're around the fireplace but when they're not hearing the word "no" they respond way better to my request! I also try my hardest not to say things like, "Don't run!" and I'll say, "We walk in here." instead. When kids hear the word "run" all they think is to run more, but when they hear the word "walk" that's what will stick in their minds.
This method has helped me with my two toddlers tremendously and I wanted to pass it on!